Handbooks that read like a legal document can do more harm than good.  When employees are treated like “the enemy” they may feel and even become adversarial.  Handbooks do need to pass minimal legal standards but handbooks with too many “do nots”, legal words and disclaimers set a negative tone and do not build a positive and trusting relationship.

Begin the handbook with a welcoming statement to build a positive culture.  Keep legalistic words (such as:  whereas and forthwith and furthermore) out of the handbook.  Instead of listing all the do nots, describe the expectations and what “to do”.  For any list of “do nots” there will always be another behavior, not on the list, that will inevitably surface, making the “do not” list moot (sorry for the legal term).  Carefully choose words to avoid the “we vs them” culture. 

There should be clearly stated expectations against harassment and discrimination and also established steps to follow.  Good guidelines exist for this language.  However, the policy and procedures against harassment and discrimination should be kept in perspective.  Handbooks with many pages dedicated to this subject send the message “wow, this company has a problem”.  Be clear, be concise, be legal, be kind. 

Be careful when adding new wording for new laws.  A hastily slapped together and lengthy policy will stand out like a sore thumb and gives an impression that this is the MOST important policy.  Weave new policy generated by new laws in with other policies and practices. 

Supervisors like lists of actions subject to discipline; and they mistakenly think it will make their job easier.  It won’t.  Resist the list! 

Finally, don’t say you’re going to do something and then not do it.  If in doubt, leave it out.   Use words like “intend” or “may” to allow flexibility.  Arbitrary inconsistencies are bad, but the reality is there will always be the need for exceptions and flexibility.  Don’t mistake treating everyone exactly the same, regardless of circumstances, with fairness.  Fairness requires discernment and judgement.  Hard and fast rules with no room for recognizing the exception lead to trouble more often than not.  Managing from the heart will result in fairness; managing from the book will result in losing the good employees.  The fair manager will eventually have to say “no” to one to be fair to all.    

Contracts do have their place when two parties do not trust each other or do not know each other.  The handbook should be a communication tool that sets expectations, estalishes positive relations and builds trust.

The rule of thumb is for every fifty words of policy, there is one loophole.  So don’t try to build the perfect document with MORE words.  Build a document that sets standards and expectations, gives good guidelines and practical steps and information, sets a tone for a positive, respectful working environment for all and treats adults as adults — not felons or children.   

Bottom line, edit your handbooks for tone as well as for words.  Would an employee read the document and feel like a team member or would an employee read the document and feel like they need a lawyer?